Made a list of all persons I had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. Matthew 5:9
In step 8 we begin the process of trying to make peace with those around us who we might of hurt. We go to them and ask them to forgive us. We have to remind ourselves about relationships, past and present were multiple offenses occurred and will need to be forgiven.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. We love him, because he first loved us. 1 John 4:18-19
Our addictive life styles were like a tornado full of destructive energy that cut through relationships, leaving much wreckage behind. When we received Jesus we could fell the healing power of His grace, that we get eager to reach out to others and to mend broken relationships. The way to start is through love. We get a little fearful when trying to reach somebody and ask them to forgive us. There is a story in the Bible about a man who wanted forgiveness, but couldn’t forgive others:
Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. Matthew 18:23-35
Here is a man that had done something wrong to someone, so he goes to that person and asks for forgiveness. That person forgives the man, and the man goes and is set free. The same man was now asked forgiveness from another man, but instead of him forgiving him he had him punished. The Bible tells us about why we should ask for forgiveness:
But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil. Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful. Luke 6:35-36
We may do our best to make amends, but these amends might not be accepted by others, and this is ok, it's on the others now. As long as we do what is right then it's what the Bible says:
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. John 8:36
Step Eight Review
1. What is a peacemaker?
2. To make peace we first have to do what?
3. When you received Jesus what did you feel?
4. Making amends to others comes through what?
5. What did the man do when he did something wrong?
6. What did he do when someone did something wrong to him?
7. Why are we suppose to forgive others?
8. How are we to act if someone doesn't forgive us?
9. What has Jesus Christ done for You?