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Step Nine

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. Matthew 5:23-24

     Another way that we get stuck and stop advancing, is resentments. Resentments are dangerous, this is where hatred extends from. Hatred is what Satan uses to stop the blessing of God from flowing into peoples' lives. Hatred is what breaks the commandment that Jesus talks about:

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. John 13:34

     What the word is trying to reveal to you is that no matter what a person has done or said toward you, don't let being offended run into a resentment of hatred toward that person. The Bible says:

Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon him. Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the Lord. Leviticus 19:17-18

     One of the hardest things for anyone to do is to make amends to someone, particularly to a person who has hurt your feelings. But in order to advance on your climb to victory, you have to forgive and ask for forgiveness. Jesus tells us:

But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil. Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful. Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.

Luke 6:35-38

     Resentment will hold you back; in fact, it will cause you to stay right where you are. The reason is the time and place that the resentment accrued will never change without there being an amends. Without amends, or we could say forgiveness, there will be no releasing of the resentment. You will keep reliving the time and place the resentment occurred. It will be like an open wound that will never heal. It scabs over, but you keep picking at it, and the wound remains the same as a reminder to you. Paul tells us:

Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:13-14

     Resentment will keep you living in the past and stop you from moving forward in your steps. This is why it is so important to swallow your pride and make amends to someone, or you will live in the past and miss out what God has for you in your future.

Step Nine Review

1.  What is it that will get you stuck and stop from advancing.

2.  What does Satan use to stop the flow of God's blessing?

3.  I a person has done something wrong toward you, what are you supposed to do?

4.  To advance on your climb to victory, what do you have to do?

5.  Without amends, there will be no what?

6.  Resentment will keep you living where?