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A Friend Worth Having

John 15:13-15

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. 14 Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. 15 Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.

  1. Jesus wants for you to relate to him in a personal way

  2. Jesus wants for you to have a personal relationship with him

  3. He initiated an all out effort to reach into your life to get the relationship going.

  4. Greater love have no man than this

Romans 5:7-8

For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die. 8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

  1. Because of love Jesus died for you so that you would become his friend

  2. A Friend Worth Having

Suppose you had to choose between to people who wanted to take you out to dinner. The first person is very warm and takes genuine interest in others. He listens attentively and is fun to be with. Those who develop a friendship with him want it to last a lifetime.

The second person is aloof and demanding. He keeps much of his friends at a distance. The only tine he calls is when he wants something from you. He's pretty unpredictable emotionally, and you never quite know where you stand with him. He wields considerable influence, but it it weren't for his power he probably wouldn't have any friends at all.

The question is; in your mind which of these two people do you feel who God is. Unfortunately, many people have a distorted view of God's character. To them, he's much like the second person distant and uncaring. Although he is powerful, he can' be counted upon. The only real benefit in knowing him comes from occasional answers to prayer. No wonder people have a hard time relating to him! Who would want to cultivate a friendship like this.

If your view of God has been colored by mistaken assumptions and erroneous ideas, it can be startling to learn that God longs to establish an intimate friendship with you. You have a God who cares and a God you can talk to. His name is Jesus and he says:

Matthew 11:28

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy ladden, and I will give you rest.

What are some ingredients for building a relationship with another person?

  1. First meeting the person

  2. Spending time together communicating

  3. Continuing to have shared experiences

What are some necessary ingredients for a relationship with God?

  1. Time

  2. Communication

  3. Experience

Why We Can Have a Personal Relationship With God

  1. God has chosen us.

John 15:16

Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you.

Why is it significant that Jesus said, “ I chose You?

Jesus points out to his disciples that their choice was a response, not an initiative, and the same is true for us.

  1. God wants to spend time with us.

Revelation 3:20

Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.

What does it mean when Jesus says that he wants to eat with you?

He wants for you to come and spend time and communicate with him

  1. God will never leave us.

Hebrews 13:5

Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

How do you respond to the promise that God will never leave us?

God desires to share the journey of life with us such that no decision is made without his counsel, no plan is undertaken without his strengthening and no trial or sorrow is faced without his comfort.

What God Has Given Us to Establish This Relationship

  1. He gave us his Son.

John 3:16

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

What did God accomplish for us through giving his Son?

It was the most expensive thing purchased in all of history, and it brought us back to God for the price of sin for what Jesus had done for us.

  1. He gave us a book.

Matthew 4:4

But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.

Why is the Bible so important for our relationship with God?

The Bible is God's love letter, containing hundreds of pages of his thoughts about us, himself, life and so on. God used ore than forty authors, writing over 1,000 years, in three languages, on three continents. He brought all this together out of love for us to make sure we'd have some solid truth in the midst of so much confusion and speculation.

  1. He gave us his Spirit.

John 16:13-14

Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. He shall glorify me: for he shall receive of mine, and shall shew it unto you.

What does the Holy Spirit do for us?

God's Spirit lives in us when we become believers. His own homing device actively works in and through us, producing Christ-like character, a hunger for spiritual growth, conviction of sin, a love for truth (the bible) and a desire for holiness.

Now that you see how much God has done to establish a relationship with you, what is your response?